Internet dating for cats
It was our first outing together, and he was going through the regular first date particulars.All the while my mind wandered, thinking about if my new liquid lipsticks had been shipped yet, wondering what sheet mask I should apply tonight, when and if someone is gonna finally kill Ramsay Bolton’s ole sadistic ass. No, we had rather nice and lengthy conversations over the phone before we met face-to-face.As a recent Fast Company article points out, many Japanese still view online dating as a scam.That perception dates back to the '90s, when pseudo dating sites required men to pay per message and had their employees pose as female subscribers. This past June, The Daily Mail reported that eight executives were arrested in Japan after allegedly fake dating sites they created in 2004 were exposed.Kana mentioned that a lot of people just post photos of their cats, or, oddly, a rice cooker.But peculiar profile pictures aren't the only reason online dating is floundering in Japan.Every fiber in my being responded with a resounding “meh” with every man I had contact with.I didn’t respond to text messages for hours or even days later; any attempts to facetime me, any request for a picture, all met with disdain.
So instead, they use photos with two or more people, or no people at all.
Horrified by the monotony of Tinder communication, I signed up for another site to see for myself if this was just par for the course with the app, or my fate in online dating.
Fear confirmed; dozens of “Hey miss lady” and profiles of “God Fearing men who aren’t here to play games” later, I resigned myself to my reality.
To add to that, a 2014 survey by the Japan Family Planning Association found that 49% of all respondents had not had sex in the past month, and 18% of men said they had no interest in sex at all.
"The Japanese are legitimately worried about running out of Japanese people," comedian Aziz Ansari writes in his new book, "Modern Romance," co-authored by sociologist Ansari notes that Japanese culture and the fear of being perceived as "charai" (or "a sleazy player") may explain why online dating hasn't exploded in Japan.
I usually obsess over the visual details, nail color, makeup (Evening glam? I had checked out, not just on him, but on dating period.